Young People Value Coaching, Too - The First Secret to Being Motivated

For the past few years the most common challengethey are doing, where they are, what mood they are
that I find in young people who are referred to me isin, who they are with; this information will help them to
lack of motivation. They want to be, do or haveidentify what their WHY for doing something is.
something better however their cry is usually "I can't be4. Discover the common thread. Review the
bothered!"responses to the three points above and find the
This is a worrying theme. So many naturally talented,common thread that runs through. This is an important
skillful and gifted young people just drifting their waystep so don't rush it and it will be worth the wait.
through life. This robs them of their happiness and5. The final step is best if the young person is left to
fulfillment and their light fails to shine.do this on their own over a week or so. They need to
The good thing is that they will usually be motivated injust ponder over the three questions below and make
some area of their life. So, if you are trusted witha note of their answers. These questions are aimed at
motivating a young person then your first mission is tohelping them to identify their source of motivation, and
help them find out what motivates them now. If youthere are no right or wrong answers.a) What have
can do this, then this will be the first secret to havingyou learnt about yourself from doing this exercise?b)
motivated young person.What is most important to you about X (the thing that
Here's a fun five step exercise to get the motivationthey want to be motivated for)?c) Which of your main
fire going:strengths can you use to help get you motivated for
1. Find out what activities throughout their young livesit?
have given them most satisfaction. Use openThis exercise will lay the initial building blocks to getting
questions (what, where, when, how, etc;) and listenyour young person's motivation back. When they
carefully to what is said and what is not said.become aware of why they do what they do, it will
2. Everyone has two or three unique abilities or skillsgive them more responsibility and control over their
that they are gifted with. Instead of worrying too muchactions and emotions.
about their weaknesses clearly name and recogniseBy taking the time to go through this exercise they will
their strengths.discover what is important to them and how they can
3. Knowing their strengths leads to pinpointing whatuse their strengths to ignite their self-motivation. Feel
engages and interests them. Take a little time tofree to drop me an email and let me know how you
carefully explore the situations when they are "in theget on.
zone." It will be useful to take note of things like what