| Hearing your spouse telling you that they want a | | | | important step towards reconciliation. When one |
| divorce can be devastating. This is particularly true if | | | | spouse wants a divorce they may place most of the |
| you are still feeling committed to the relationship. When | | | | blame for the relationship trouble in the other spouse's |
| one spouse wants a divorce and the other doesn't, it | | | | lap. If you take the position of absorbing that blame |
| creates even more turmoil in an already strained | | | | you are showing the other person that you respect |
| marriage. There are things you can do if you are the | | | | their feelings and opinion. If you were to argue back |
| partner who still wants to work at the relationship. | | | | every point they were making they would quickly |
| Typically people seek a divorce when they just aren't | | | | become frustrated and that would ensure that they |
| getting emotional fulfillment from the marriage. This | | | | would be more determined to follow through with the |
| often happens if both parties are constantly bickering | | | | divorce. Instead, be the bigger person and absorb their |
| or arguing. When one spouse wants a divorce it's | | | | anger. Once they have had time to calm down they |
| important for the other spouse to not turn that into a | | | | will realize how unreasonable they were being. |
| fight as well. You can accomplish much more and you | | | | It's also important, when one spouse wants a divorce |
| have a much better chance of saving the marriage if | | | | that you abide by their wishes. If they are serious |
| you listen to what your spouse is telling you without | | | | about the idea of a trial separation, be supportive. Tell |
| reacting too emotionally. Granted you will likely cry but | | | | them that you will do all you can to help including |
| you must try your best not to lash out and say hurtful | | | | packing and helping with the actual move. If you've |
| things in anger. If you do, that will be the last memory | | | | been begging your partner for a second chance up to |
| your partner has of the relationship and that's not the | | | | this point, this will take them by surprise. They won't be |
| impression you want to leave them with. | | | | expecting this reaction from you and it will make them |
| Agreeing with the complaints your partner has | | | | wonder what has changed. This alone can often be |
| regarding your behavior in the marriage can also | | | | enough to make your spouse consider how difficult life |
| benefit you in the long run. This will be difficult and it will | | | | would really be without you. |
| likely mean you have to bite your tongue but it's an | | | | |