| Saving your marriage for your children's benefit is | | | | anxiety and tension for your children. Children know |
| admirable but may not always be wise. Some couples | | | | and understand that parents aren't all the same. They |
| believe that they can deal with their ongoing conflicts | | | | do understand the concept of marriage and love |
| because it's best for their children. If you and your | | | | though and if they sense that their parents don't care |
| spouse are facing this now, you should seriously | | | | much for each other, they'll start to question that |
| consider whether or not you're making the right | | | | internally. Saving your marriage for your children may |
| decision. In some instances, staying together is actually | | | | actually not be in their best interest if you and your |
| going to serve to make the children's lives more | | | | spouse are setting the example that a marriage |
| challenging than if a separation occurred. You both | | | | consists of two people who simply tolerate each other |
| need to be honest with yourself about what you | | | | as opposed to adore each other. This is significant and |
| believe the future of the marriage is. | | | | does impact children's views of relationships. It shouldn't |
| Prolonging a divorce for the simple reason of keeping | | | | be discounted. |
| the children happy doesn't always bode well. Children, | | | | In some cases couples will say that they want to save |
| even young ones, are very intuitive. They can pick up | | | | their marriage for the children but in reality that's a |
| when their parents aren't getting along. If the couple | | | | veiled excuse for their real motivation. If you still love |
| isn't quiet when they're disagreeing, it gives the children | | | | your spouse and you still dream of a happy and |
| a glimpse into their parent's relationship that they likely | | | | content family don't use the children as a way to get |
| wished they'd never had. If you and your spouse | | | | your partner to stay in the relationship. Tell your partner |
| argue openly in front of your children and they are | | | | how you really feel all the while stressing how it |
| reacting in a negative way to that, something has to | | | | important it is to you to have a good marriage so your |
| change. Saving your marriage for your children's | | | | family can flourish. If you and your spouse can work |
| benefit in this case may not be the best thing for them. | | | | out your problems together, your children will gain from |
| If the two of you rarely talk that's also a source of | | | | that as well. |