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| make it more difficult than it should be. There are three | | | | 2. If you and your spouse are fighting all the time, you |
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| divorce. | | | | talk about the problems more and more until the other |
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| seemingly impossible to overcome problems are | | | | comments are hurled and the discussion leads to |
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| may sense a change in the marriage and doubt, fear | | | | will follow your lead. |
| and insecurity settle in. Once those have taken hold, it | | | | 3. Many people take no steps towards saving a |
| can be difficult to get your marriage back on track | | | | marriage in hopes that the problems will go away. |
| simply because your natural instincts for | | | | Problems in a marriage are like weeds. If weeds |
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| against you. | | | | themselves. In fact, they grow and spread and take |
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| | | | you're growing if you ignore the fact that something is |
| 1. Your current attempts at saving your marriage are | | | | wrong and hope that it will disappear on its own - you |
| probably pushing your spouse further away. When we | | | | are growing a marriage of weeds. Instead, pull out the |
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| wouldn't normally do in order to make them see how | | | | healthy. |
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| sleeves - moping around the house, looking sad and | | | | most people. Fortunately, there are relationship and |
| weepy, and making more of every little comment than | | | | marriage guides that can help you take the steps |
| it was meant to be. These types of behaviors can | | | | necessary to rebuild a happier and healthier life with |
| make your spouse uncomfortable and confirm for | | | | your spouse. |