| ***QUESTION FROM A READER*** | | | | when they start to wake up and do something about |
| Hey Alex, | | | | their lives: putting too much pressure on yourself to |
| How do you maintain your focus on your life purpose, | | | | make your life meaningful. You fear that without focus |
| self development, happiness when involved in the | | | | (drifting) that you will waste your life. As a result you |
| physical aspects in life, especially women. I have the | | | | get fearful any time you don't stay on the path you |
| habit of getting in a relationship for example and | | | | have chosen. You believe you have to be on your |
| starting off with a strong foundation and self security, | | | | path every second, meditate all the time and feel like |
| however after some time and being involved in life I | | | | you are growing constantly. This fear creates an |
| start to lose focus and stray away from myself. What | | | | anxiety to rush to the finish line and finally settle down |
| do you do to stay on track? | | | | at a level that you are comfortable with. |
| When jumping into these various experiences I'll | | | | My advice: Forget the phrase "if you aren't going |
| occasionally lose focus and forget my original direction. | | | | forward you are going backwards." Become |
| I'll eventually get back on track, but when it takes a | | | | comfortable again with feeling that you are drifting |
| few months to realize it, it seems like I'm wasting | | | | through life at certain times because that feeling will |
| opportunities to learn and grow through forgetting my | | | | come up A LOT. If you don’t do this you will put |
| focus. | | | | too much pressure on yourself to become perfect and |
| Thanks, | | | | to only take the high road. |
| Bert | | | | Stop putting rules on yourself to be “perfect.” If |
| >>>MY ANWSER | | | | you take a month where you do nothing but drink and |
| If Jessica Alba came to your room wearing nothing at | | | | sleep with random women, GOOD. If you sit around |
| all, would you lose focus? I highly doubt it. You | | | | and play video games for a week straight, great. You |
| wouldn’t lose focus because of how appealing she | | | | are too aware to ever fall off the deep end and lose |
| is and how much you would want to sleep with her. | | | | COMPLETE direction and focus in your life. |
| Your desire for her would be strong. | | | | It’s the worrying about "messing up" and losing |
| Focus and direction on your mission is similar to the | | | | focus that is hurting you the most. When you put too |
| above, it will come when you find your true calling. You | | | | much pressure on yourself to be “perfect” in |
| will no longer have to “work” hard to stay on | | | | your mission, focus or whatever, you are going against |
| that path because it will become effortless. | | | | the flow of life and trying to FORCE the outcome. |
| As you are finding out, it is difficult to keep focus on | | | | Growing is a slow process and you will get to where |
| something that isn’t your true mission. My attention | | | | you want to be when you are ready for it and not a |
| span for things that I don’t truly want is 5 maybe 6 | | | | second earlier. |
| seconds. I know when it’s NOT my true path when | | | | And there is no such thing as a wasted opportunity to |
| my interest level drops. When that happens I'll drop it | | | | grow. If you are plowing through your life and an |
| completely because I won’t try to force myself to | | | | opportunity passes you by that you didn't act on |
| do things that I’m not passionate about. | | | | don’t worry so much about it because you weren't |
| I have dropped many "missions" before finding my true | | | | meant to have that experience. If you were meant to |
| calling. I wanted to be a psychologist, business owner, | | | | have that experience then you would have had it. |
| writer and a bunch of others faux missions. They | | | | The time when you feel like you are not growing is the |
| weren't right for me and I never had the focus or drive | | | | time when you grow the most. |
| to keep them going. | | | | -Alexp. |
| Also, I believe that you are doing what most people do | | | | |