| How to stop your divorce by doing the opposite of | | | | me. |
| what you think | | | | I tried to get to see her more often and did everything I |
| The most natural thing to do when you realise that | | | | could to make her happy but when she finally returned |
| your spouse has grown tired of your marriage or | | | | I could see that the relationship was not going to be |
| relationship is to make them promises, pay them more | | | | the same as it was before. I worked hard at winning |
| attention and even plead with them not to leave you. | | | | her back for almost a year but I could see that she |
| This might seem to be the right thing to do to stop | | | | wasn't interested and that I was just making things |
| your divorce but in reality it will very rarely succeed. If | | | | worse. |
| you want to give yourself the best chance of getting | | | | I told her that it was over and the unexpected |
| your spouse back then you must do the exact | | | | happened |
| opposite. | | | | I finally decided that enough was enough and told her |
| Don't make false promises or plead | | | | that it was all over. I just couldn't live like that any more. |
| Making promises and pleading with your partner | | | | The reaction I got took me completely by surprise. |
| makes you look weak and pathetic and frankly not | | | | Suddenly she wants to make a go of the relationship |
| very attractive. If you do this then you are more likely | | | | and can't understand why I want to end it. Suddenly I'm |
| to make things worse than better. Many years ago I | | | | the bad boy when I'd been trying to save us for the |
| was in a relationship that demonstrates the futility of | | | | past 3 years. |
| chasing your dissatisfied spouse and how effective | | | | How to stop your divorce by backing off |
| the exact opposite strategy can be. | | | | The lesson I learned that day is that you should never |
| We had been together for 3 happy years when my | | | | chase a failing relationship. Instead you should remain |
| girlfriend decided to take a course in a town 6 hours | | | | strong and make sure that you have a life apart from |
| away. I was supportive and put her best interests | | | | your loved one. Don't plead or make false promises |
| above mine and we both agreed that we would stay | | | | but make sure that she sees you going out well |
| together and settle down when the course was over. | | | | presented, happy and living your own life. This will |
| We saw each other infrequently during the 2 years of | | | | make you much more attractive to your partner and |
| the course and even though my enthusiasm never | | | | might just save your divorce or relationship. |
| faltered I could sense that she was drifting away from | | | | |