| Attachments are usually formed when there are | | | | drifting partner you cut him/her off from your emotions |
| positive emotions between two lovers but when a | | | | so that you do not keep bleeding. If you keep the |
| relationship is in crisis or a partner has left, it is | | | | attachment, you are holding onto a fantasy which will |
| important to know how to cope with negative | | | | only cause you more pain because of unmet needs. |
| emotions. | | | | More than likely you are holding your partner |
| The best coping strategy is counterintuitive. Your | | | | responsible for your happiness and no one can make |
| emotions will want to hold on inspite of what you may | | | | you happy but YOU. |
| hear or see. Faced with the truth, you may try to | | | | Begin by setting up boundaries for yourself and cut |
| protect "what you have" by reacting from panic but | | | | yourself off from the dead energy that is causing you |
| this rarely works. Reacting from shock and panic will | | | | so much pain. When I decided to also emotionally |
| cause you to lose your power. | | | | check out, I just did not care anymore and this attitude |
| The news of someone leaving or the sight of a drifting | | | | helped me a great deal to becoming the best woman I |
| partner will cause an imbalance of power in the | | | | have ever been. I thought I had true love but I did not. |
| relationship. Power imbalances in relationships are | | | | True love is the ability to love yourself enough to not |
| unhealthy and can only lead to dysfunction. | | | | settle for someone who does not deserve you. |
| When you choose to emotionally divorce your EX or | | | | |