| Completing relationships is often one of the most | | | | that our words and actions have impact on others. If |
| painful experiences of life. Because of this, people tend | | | | there is any way that you have spoken or behaved |
| to avoid dealing with completion altogether. Completing | | | | that has caused others pain, it is important to know |
| relationships is often one of the most painful | | | | how to make sincere and effective apologies from a |
| experiences of life. Because of this, people tend to | | | | place of self-love and compassion for others. 5. |
| avoid dealing with completion altogether. There are | | | | Redefine your common path -- Create a new form |
| four ways we have observed that relationships can | | | | for the relationship. You may be moving from romantic |
| be completed; death, drifting apart, abrupt expulsion or | | | | partner to friend; or from marriage partner to parenting |
| ejection from the relationship and conscious | | | | partner; or business partner to belonging to the same |
| completion. Sometimes completion is only about | | | | associations. The most important part in creating a |
| changing the form of the relationship and recreating it, | | | | new form is clarifying the purpose of the new |
| not necessarily the end of the relationship altogether. A | | | | relationship. 6. Articulate the highest spiritual thought |
| good example of this is when parents divorce; they | | | | about the relationship. This requires looking at your |
| are still responsible for co-parenting. Consequently they | | | | relationship from your soul's perspective which is |
| are remaining in relationship, albeit a different form than | | | | beyond time and immediate circumstances. It allows |
| marriage and romance. When people drift apart, it is | | | | you to acknowledge and appreciate how you have |
| often because there were things they were afraid to | | | | grown and developed in the relationship. There is a |
| talk about. The cumulative effect of avoiding important | | | | feeling of gratitude and blessing about the relationship |
| conversations about difficult issues is emotional | | | | that acts as a balm, soothing the temporary wounds |
| numbing and distancing. Often, the eventual outcome is | | | | of separation. 7. Know what you need to feel |
| drifting apart. Geographical distance can also lead to | | | | complete. Are there things you need to say or |
| drifting apart, as well as a lack of common interests. | | | | requests you need to make? Are there missing pieces |
| Sometimes, events occur in relationships that cause a | | | | of information that would help you feel complete if you |
| sudden and abrupt end to relationships. An example of | | | | had them? Do you need to offer or ask for |
| this could be a business partnership in which one | | | | forgiveness for anything? 8. Generate a safe space |
| partner is found committing illegal or unethical acts that | | | | for completion conversation. Make sure everything that |
| compromise the life or reputation of the business and | | | | needs to be said or done for everyone to feel |
| partners involved. Hurt feelings that people don't have | | | | complete is communicated in a spirit of love and dignity. |
| the skills or inclination to talk about and work through, | | | | Creating this kind of atmosphere can be challenging |
| can also lead to an abrupt ending of a relationship. | | | | when there are hurt feelings and unresolved |
| Much more rare is for relationships to be completed | | | | misunderstanding. It can be valuable to bring in a coach |
| consciously. That is because there is some skill | | | | to facilitate the completion conversation. 9. Allow for a |
| involved and a high level of self-awareness and | | | | healthy expression of grief, fear, anger or any other |
| compassion. We offer for your consideration the | | | | emotion. Learning to be present to someone else's |
| following ten essential skills for consciously completing | | | | upset without taking it personally is a high level |
| relationships. 1. Be alert to how the completion impacts | | | | relationship skill, but it can be learned. It is important |
| the identity concerns of everyone involved. Our sense | | | | because the relationship won't feel complete without |
| of self is very much tied to our most important | | | | the acknowledgment of important, and often powerful, |
| relationships, whether personal or business, and when | | | | feelings. You also need to love yourself enough to |
| an important relationship completes it can have a | | | | acknowledge and express your own feelings. |
| painful impact on our thoughts and feelings about | | | | Unacknowledged feelings tend to show up in other |
| ourselves. It can cause us to question our conception | | | | relationships, which is why this part is so important. 10. |
| of reality and our place in it. 2. Acknowledge and | | | | Accept and flow with change. This is a time for us to |
| integrate the value and learning from the relationship. | | | | acknowledge that we are each the source of our |
| Remember from our soul's perspective relationships | | | | own happiness. This can be an impetus for us to let go |
| are for learning and creating. If a relationship is | | | | of the notion that we need a particular person to |
| completing, it indicates that we have probably learned | | | | actualize our full potential for wellbeing. With every |
| most of the lessons available for us in that relationship | | | | ending there are new beginnings. Trust your own |
| or new creations are calling us to a new path. | | | | Higher Self who is always guiding you to your greatest |
| Completion may be thought of as a graduation. 3. Own | | | | good. What does completion feel like? How do you |
| up to mistakes without self-invalidation. A valuable point | | | | know when you are consciously complete in a |
| of view is to consider that everyone is always doing | | | | relationship? When you can think of the other person |
| the best they can with the resources available to them | | | | and not have any bad feelings of regret or pain, rather |
| - even you. Undoubtedly, if we had it to do all over | | | | you are able to feel gratitude for all that the relationship |
| again, there is almost always something we would do | | | | was and all that you have learned from it. Completion |
| differently. It's essential to conscious completion to | | | | can feel like anything from neutral (no negative charge) |
| acknowledge our mistakes. That is a part of the | | | | to love and appreciation. Anything less is just not, well, |
| learning. 4. Make apologies. Even though we are not | | | | complete. |
| responsible for other peoples' feelings, it is also true | | | | |